DEAR TAYLOR SWIFT - WALK AWAY WITH A SPARKLER

I was talking to one of my girls today and we had a long conversation about how there are some people who will never be happy.

We know someone who hasn't spoken to his only sibling in over four years since she wouldn't write the courts a negative letter about his spouse in a divorce situation. He is an unhappy person and being able to hold a grudge with your only sibling for four years over one letter is a deep issue.  This person is also hyper focused on money, I once said to him,  "How much money would you need to feel like you had enough and could stop obsessing about it, $1,000,000, $5,000,000?" He admitted that no amount would be enough that he would always continually want more.

In continuing the talk with my daughter, I told her that I believe that there are some people who are so angry with their lives and themselves in general that I don't think they would be happy if the person they hated the most in the world laid down in front of them naked and let them beat them to death. I believe they wouldn't be happy if they were elected president. I told her of the rich character in "The Count of Monte Christo" who has everything but isn't happy until the poor guy is out of the picture because the poor man was happy with nothing. The rich man beats the main character down taking everything he had and in the end, the rich man still wasn't happy.

During my marriage, there were only two books I ever remember seeing my spouse read, one was "The Count of Monte Christo" and the other was a John Grisham book where a guy plots to steal all sorts of money in elaborate schemes and then in the end, he is left with nothing as the woman who helped him steal from others, stole the money from him leaving him alone in the end. It is interesting that the rich man in both books lies, cheats, steals, and yet with all that, in the end, they are alone and unhappy and poor.

My daughter and I then talked of the person mentioned above who doesn't talk to his sibling and how the sister is also unhappy, in many ways, about her family not being how she wants it to be and how if her brother said he was sorry to her for not talking to her for years, would she finally be happy? If her mother all the sudden started "mothering" her as she feels she needs, would she then be happy? We talked of how fleeting happiness is if you cheat to win or attain a goal. There is always a cost for cheating and lying and it may not always be in ways you can see. Sometimes that cost is just a look of "carrying a load" on the face and eventually the body gives in some way.

I believe there is something in "letting go" of people in your life who make you unhappy, letting go of those people who are impossible to "make" happy in any way. The poor man in "The Count of Monte Christo" could do nothing to help the rich man find happiness, even when the poor man disappeared for many years, it didn't make the rich man any happier. No one can make others "Happy" as happiness comes from within. It is a choice.

I look at the situation with Taylor Swift. A happy girl who loved writing songs and making others happy by sharing her talent and happiness. An unhappy person attacks her for winning an award which she deserved according to those in charge of giving the awards, only to have that unhappy person steal a moment of HER happiness to gain attention for himself. Years go past and Taylor continues being happy, sharing her talent with others, bringing joy in sharing herself and using her money to do good. I believe her light makes the "unhappy in themselves people" in the world, more unhappy as you can't hide darkness when the light walks in and when she shows up, those in the darkness try to put the candle out as they can't hide their darkness when she is around!

I believe there is NOTHING Taylor can do to stop those people lurking in the dark from attacking her. Being herself didn't make them happy. Doing good to others didn't make them happy. fighting back doesn't make them happy. When she is spending her money on helping those in need, it makes them feel selfish as they spend their money lavishly traveling, doing drugs, buying things to draw attention to themselves. In order to ease their guilt and to make themselves look less selfish, they draw the attention away from the real truths of the situation by blowing smoke at someone else (the light) in order to hide what they are doing in the dark. The only thing that can hide a candle is smoke. The light penetrates the darkness unless there is smoke around.

The thing Taylor Swift needs to realize, is that giving them any attention, is fueling the smoke that hides who they are.

By saying anything or doing anything, it gives them a bigger smoke screen as it draws more attention to her and hides the real truths of who they are. I TOTALLY get her "Look What You Made Me Do" lyrics in her new song and depicting herself as "Dead" or a non-feeling "zombie" shows that their words and actions are "killing" her! They are tearing her down and the smoke is suffocating her.

I have come to realize that when someone says something horrible to you or about you, when you respond at all to say ANYTHING it only fuels the fire causing more smoke. The only solution I have found is to say nothing and go on being the light that only you can be. By saying nothing, the evil words and deeds of the haters, starts to sink in to those around it. When you start to defend the horrible thing said, people only hear the last thing said and if that is you defending yourself, they tend to not remember the horrible things that made you feel like you need to defend yourself. When I leave a "haters" comment on my youtube comments section and don't reply in any way, it doesn't take much time for someone, anyone to write a comment defending me which has much more strength then me trying to defend myself. 

DEAR TAYLOR SWIFT,
DON'T BLOW ON THE FUSE! THE ONLY WAY TO PUT OUT THE DYNAMITE IS TO PULL OUT THE FUSE! IF YOU BLOW ON IT, IT WILL GO OFF!

WHEN THEY TRY TO HAND YOU LIT DYNAMITE, GRAB THE FUSE AND WALK AWAY LEAVING THEM WITH THE DYNAMITE AND YOU WITH A HARMLESS SPARKLER WHICH WILL DRAW GREAT ATTENTION TO YOU AND LEAVE THEM WITH A POTENTIAL BOMB!

SINCERELY,
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